The Gottman Method
It takes “more than” love for successful relationships to work. It requires ongoing effort and attention; but with external stressors, past regrettable incidences, past trauma, and triggers getting in the way – it can feel impossible.
Working with a therapist trained in the Gottman Method is essential to learning and implementing these tools to improve your relationship while also healing through trauma and understanding triggers, that of yourself and your partner. Remember, you’re in this together
Not your average couples therapy
John and Julie Gottman are world-renowned clinical psychologists who have revolutionized the study of marriage and relationship therapy. The Gottman Method is an integrative approach to couples therapy grounded in decades of longitudinal research, relationship interaction studies, and couples' workshops. What makes it especially powerful is its versatility — drawing from multiple therapy modalities to provide each couple with the most effective, personalized path toward a healthy and lasting relationship.
The Multi-method Approach
This multi-method approach includes existentially based couple therapy, and behavioral, cognitive, narrative, systemic, and psychodynamic couple therapy. The Gottman Method focuses on emotion, communication, connection, skill building, problem solving, conflict management, friendship building, and ultimately works to help the couple develop a deeper understanding of themselves and each other to create a system of shared meaning together.
Gottman Relationship Check-Up
In addition to relationship research of the Gottman’s and expertise of the therapist, clients also have the unique opportunity to complete the Gottman Relationship Check-Up when choosing to work with a Gottman Method Trained Couples Therapist. This is a clinical resource from the Gottman Institute that automatically scores and assesses the relationship’s strengths and challenges while also providing specific recommendations of intervention for the therapist upon completion of the assessment.
10 Ways the Gottman Method Works to Improve Your Relationships:
Rebuild your friendship
Increase fondness and admiration
Turn towards instead of away
Communicate effectively
Listen to understand
Work toward compromise
Manage conflict constructively
Repair past emotional injuries
Practice rituals of connection
Create shared meaning
What to Expect
Schedule and meet for a Free 20 Minute Virtual Consultation
Give me a call or submit a consultation request
Meet for first Couples Session
Consent Forms Due by the first scheduled session and are provided following consultation
Each Partner Meets for Individual Session
This is where I get to know each individual to better understand your relationship
We'll meet for Couples Therapy on a regular, reoccurring basis
The Couple’s Treatment Plan will also be reviewed with the Couple
“Happily ever after” is not by chance. It’s by choice.
– The Gottman Institute